The Whole Mama

Disappointing

I believe this video covers all 7 minutes that aired recently on ABC’s Nightline program. Having watched it, I feel quite disappointed. How much of what we saw related to the edit and how much to the material available to edit is something I can’t know. Mainly, I feel that it once again failed to show the benefits of unschooling to anyone not yet familiar to it, while pandering to the all too familiar stereotypes in mainstream media about unschooling.

Perhaps some of the primary benefits I see in my family as a result of whole life unschooling and believe other families (including the Martins) experience are difficult to capture when a stranger is asking direct questions and a camera crew are skewing the energy of the family home so that the norm isn’t really present to be filmed?

Oh, the irony …

I’ve been going through a transition in my life and at times, it has been pretty exhausting and last week was one of those times. And it shone a light of irony on perhaps one of the very few “down sides” to unschooling that I can think of.

I practise whole life unschooling and, for me, it needs practise every day as I heal away from my authoritarian childhood and surrender to the flow, love and respect available in the moment. So that means my children have choice … and discussions and guidance about their choices, but they do have the final say about what goes into their bodies, when their bodies need rest, what they want to do with their time and what they want to watch on TV, just as I do.

Well Spring is well and truly here and so is that wonderful drive to clear away anything that doesn’t serve me or my family and draw in an abundant life that does.

At home, I installed a fire pit in my garden last week and my kids and I have already had our first barbeque on it and spent almost every night since sitting around it’s warmth enjoying the night and firelit dinners together. I don’t quite remember a British Spring that’s seemed so warm and inviting to be in Nature since I arrived here and I’m enjoying it as much as I can. The fire’s also been the focus of some deep ceremonies that I’ve done to release patterns and beliefs that don’t serve me, as well as a lot of grief, disappointment and sadness that I have experienced recently.

As it’s only a few days away to Christmas and this time of year brings up a lot of issues for a lot of people related to family or finances or other festive stresses, I thought I’d post this great video by Brad Yates to help with magic tapping those stresses away so that you can find it easier to focus on what you do want rather than whatever you are finding stressful in your current situation.

Wishing all my readers a wonderful Christmas filled with abundance and joy and happy memories to look back on as you head towards the end of the year.

The realization that something is not as you want it to be is an important first step, but once you have identified that, the faster you are able to turn your attention in the direction of a solution, the better, because a continuing exploration of the problem will prevent you from finding the solution. The problem is a different vibrational frequency than the solution—and all thoughts (or vibrations) are affected by (or managed by) the Law of Attraction.

– Abraham

Excerpted from the book “Money and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Health, Wealth and Happiness” #287

This is why I focus so much on identifying what you do want and then living it in your mind and like the monthly manifestation group I meet with to end on that note. In a book I’m reading at the moment, they call it “virtualizing” instead of “visualizing” as you want to experience it in your mind as if you are in the experience and living it completely, all senses plus emotions, not just watching a movie of it like you might do in visualizing.  It’s a technique I’ve used for a long time, but I love their name for it.

When you’re virtualizing, and can keep on daydreaming your end result and ignoring the negative feelings your current situation brings up, you’re on the way to changing your reality for the one you are imagining.

Experiencing in your mind the way you’d like your life to be and feeling those feelings and expecting it to be possible and even likely, creates a channel for it to travel down towards you.  You allow your dream to show you the first little step that you need to take to help make it happen (inspired action) from where you are, as well as orchestrating the people and resources for you to make it almost effortless to achieve your desired outcome.

Manifesting is 80% about getting the thoughts and feelings (and so, the vibration) right and only 20% about DOING to make it happen.