The Law of Attraction is something you probably know a bit about by now and as you can tell, something that is really ringing my bell at the moment and cropping up in conversations in all parts of my life. You’ve probably already heard that whether you believe in it or not, that it’s always working, which is why I think it’s so much better to work with it, intentionally, rather than just letting life happen, sometimes bringing great things with it and sometimes not.

Sometimes, all that you need, is a slight shift in perspective for what you’re looking at to make a whole load more sense. When I need that kind of shift I usually turn to books or audios of some of inspirational mentors that have crossed my path in recent years. I can see that they have already walked this road and are a bit further along the route than me, so I enjoy their perspective and know that, just as I help others out who’re walking the path I’ve already passed, my mentors help me miss some of the potholes and suggest less steep bits of the road to make my journey easier.

One of the mentors I spoke of before was Bob Proctor. I first encountered him on The Secret, but over the years, I have really been drawn to his way of explaining things and later even found that some of my other favourite writers or speakers were his students too. He has a few programs out, but one of my favourites is the Secret Science of Getting Rich.

Even as I write that, I wonder if the word “rich” has triggered a response for you like it did for me originally? It’s based on a book by Wallace D Wattles and he writes:

WHATEVER may be said in praise of poverty, the fact remains that it is not possible to live a really complete or successful life unless one is rich. No man can rise to his greatest possible height in talent or soul development unless he has plenty of money; for to unfold the soul and to develop talent he must have
many things to use, and he cannot have these things unless he has money to buy them with.

A man develops in mind, soul, and body by making use of things, and society is so organized that man must have money in order to become the possessor of things; therefore, the basis of all advancement for man must be the science of getting rich.

I came across a similar quote from Abraham-Hicks this week:

You are right when you think, Money Isn’t Everything. You certainly do not need money to have joy in your experience. But in your society – where so much of what you live is tied to money in some way – most of you associate money with freedom and since freedom is a basic tenet of your being, coming into alignment with money will help you establish… a balanced footing that’ll be of value to you in all other aspects of your experience.

And these two came hot on the heels of a discussion I’ve been having with some friends about wealth and so have had me thinking a lot about it. It seems to me that when I have had little money and have been worrying whether or not I could pay the bills or buy groceries, that my world was a very small place where I didn’t feel expanded, when I was a more stressed parent and a less fun partner and not the best contribution to the world that I could be. And when I have had an abundance of money available to me that the main difference was a sense of freedom. Now I know that having money and freedom do not necessarily go hand in hand, but I do know that having a free flowing abundance of money in a world that operates on a financial basis gives you the choice.

One of the most important factors for me was also my flow into an unschooling lifestyle. It’s so important to me when I’m unschooling to be able to provide a learning rich environment and to be able to go out and see the world that we’re living in, not only learn about it from books or TV and I wanted to have the freedom to choose to follow a passion and choose what we want to experience because it interests us not only by what we can ‘afford’. Of course we can be creative and resourceful with what we have, however much that is at any given time, and we are, (there’s a great post on that from Unschooling We Stand here) but I also include in my dream vision of our life trips to loads of other places in the world, hands on experiences and having the unlimited resources of materials, classes and more for what we each want to learn and enjoy. Also, for us, it’s important to be able to have both parents involved so that our children see different ways of doing things as well as experience both of us following our own passions and interests so that our children can follow our example. Not least of which is enjoying our children’s company, which seemed so unfair when only one parent could enjoy their best hours and their dad could only see them in the evenings and on weekends.

Over the years, I have found many programs running in my inner world and self talk about wealth, about an either/or type mindset (like either spiritual or rich, work hard or have fun, be the breadwinner or be with your children), judgements of wealthy people, “rules” about ‘honest’ work for ‘honest’ pay and loads of others that I have dismantled and am still doing so and I am truly greatful for some of the resources I have used along the way to give me a perspective from another angle than where I’m standing. Some have shifted me just a little, and when I’ve come back to them again, I’ve been ready for bigger shifts, while some have simply blown me out of the water and a small detail has given me a huge breakthrough.

One of Bob Proctor’s students, Brian Wong has just released a special report and video called the Seasonal Wealth Report which you can access here: Seasonal Wealth Report. It refers to the Law of Timing and is a bit sales-y overall, but it may just have a nugget that gives you a different perspective that could help you today if you’re feeling stuck.

I’ve also added a video by Bob Proctor in the side bar, but feel free to post any questions or comments you have about the program, or wealth, or unjobbing or whatever else stirs you about this. It’s something that’s got me fired up and I love talking about things like that while I can feel the energy flowing in that direction.

It’s been a while with no posts, longer than usual, because a lot of interesting discussions have been happening in my world offline that have had me pondering.  I could see how they all point to different aspects of the same subject, but I’ve been waiting for the various threads to knit together more coherently before I began writing about … The Law of Attraction.

Tuning Fork

For one thing, the Law of Attraction doesn’t work like a magnet, but more like a tuning fork.  That is, it doesn’t draw to you things that weren’t there before, but, based on what your vibration is, it sets off a resonance with people or events or things that are already around you with a similar vibration so that they are what you notice or interact with, rather than other things that also exist in your environment that you are not a vibrational match for.  If you want your world to be something different, then, rather than focusing on what is already visible to you in your reality that you don’t want and keeping your vibration a match to it,  you have to first change your vibration to what it is you are actually wanting to be, do or have.

Re-Tune Your Dial

To use another analogy (I am a big fan of analogies), if you are listening to a talk radio station but you’re not enjoying it and wish you were listening to some upbeat pop music instead, you wouldn’t expect the talk radio station to change and begin playing pop music, nor would you think that just because your radio was tuned to talk radio that that was all that you could listen to on this radio.  You know that the radio waves for what you want are also present in the room where you are and that you can simply re-tune your radio to the pop music signal and begin listening to pop music.  The talk radio waves and the pop music waves were both present all along, all you needed to do was shift your focus, tune your dial, to receive the one you wanted.

You Are Accountable

Your life is the same.  All that you wish to have in your life and all that you don’t are currently present.  Which you experience depends on what your vibration is.  You are accountable for what shows up in your life.  All of it.  That isn’t to be taken as “blame” either, which is a value judgement, stating that there’s something wrong with you because you have focused on what you don’t want (or by lack of intention failed to focus on what you do want) any more than you “blame” the radio for broadcasting talk radio when you want pop music.  Accountability simply means being willing to look at what you are currently doing, or have previously done, that has resulted in the circumstances you can now observe in your life (especially those that you no longer want to have show up) and using the tools out there to help you change your vibration so that you can be, do or have anything that you desire.

Albert Einstein defined INSANITY as: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Change Your Vibration

But, it’s not only doing the same thing over and over, which is in effect the final part of a bigger process that defines your vibration, it’s thinking the same things over and over, holding the images in your mind of the same thing over and over and feeling the same feelings over and over that create your vibration and lead you to repeat the words and actions that create more in your life of what you already have – even if that you say that you don’t want it!   The great thing I have learned over the last 10 years is that any belief you have ever created or that you have allowed others to create for you and that you have simply taken on as the truth (especially during childhood when you don’t have the filters to prevent your parents and others beliefs embedding in your subconscious), can be changed!

Inspirational Mentors

Some of my favourite mentors whose style and way of expressing these ideas in a way that spoke to me personally are Abraham-Hicks, Bob Proctor, Jack Canfield and Leslie Householder. As I began changing my beliefs about health, relationships, money and pretty much any area you can think of, blocks really became highlighted. It’s the shared knowledge of these teachers, as well as other tools like EFT and the Abraham-Hicks processes that I’ve used to shift the blocks, that has changed everything in my life for the better.

My next few posts will cover some of these mentors and what I’ve learned from them in a bit more detail.  Please feel free to post your comments:  what’s worked for you … and what hasn’t …

Anger is such a great emotion that has such
a huge taboo over it. “Nice” people don’t get angry:  that’s the message I grew up with.  Instead of developing healthy ways of feeling and expressing anger, I was left hanging, feeling shame for feeling it and no reasonable way to deal with it. When I eventually came across Louise Hay’s work on how specific diseases can be linked to the suppression of specific emotions, it made sense to me and gave me the motivation to acknowledge and work with my achilles heel, which was anger, but it took many, many years and a lot of healing to clear the backlog and learn to work with it as an ally in the present moment.

I love anger.  It’s a clear signal that something you are experiencing in the present is not in alignment with who you are and what you are wanting to create in your life.  It is a force, a huge rush of energy that you can use to make change, take action, improve yourself, but the key is to keep that emotional energy IN MOTION.

Abraham talk about the Emotional Guidance Scale* and how hard it is to move instantly from a low state to a high state and especially, to maintain a higher state if you haven’t moved steadily through at least some of the stages of emotion in between – the difference in vibration is just too great.  It’s why you can feel on a such a rollercoaster of highs and lows when you start working with self development and spiritual ideas and why many people end up feeling inadequate or guilty that they haven’t maintained the peak experiences they felt when they were in a workshop or with someone who’s inspiring and uplifting to be with.

That steady progression needn’t take more than a few minutes but it can even take months or years depending on where you are in your personal journey and where you tend to steady out emotionally on a day-to-day basis (in the health field they call that your set point but you shift it with practise).  The fact is that many of us start off pretty low and may have gotten used to feeling depressed or powerless or insecure and so we need to feel angry because anger feels better than feeling powerless or depressed or scared.  The problem is that anger is not ‘allowed’.  People around you may prefer you to be in one of the lower states than moving into anger because anger is a BIG emotion and, especially if you haven’t had enough practise at owning it rather than directing at other people, it can be very uncomfortable to be around.

How often do you see parents pacifying their angry children, trying to get them to ‘quiet down’ or people telling an angry person to calm down or pull it together?  If every time you reach anger, you’re sent back down to shame or powerlessness, it can be hard to feel the relief and freedom that lies just the other side of it in blame, or doubt or boredom, let alone hitting hopefulness, optimism or joy as your regular inner feeling.  Of course it’s useful to know how to ‘be angry’ without directing anger ‘at’ another person, but I should think that’s a whole other post for another day.

I’ve noticed that, luckily, kids move through their Emotional Guidance Scale much more easily than us adults who’ve had the process hampered a little.  It can be really easy to help them to keep the energy in motion by simply allowing them to express themselves freely until they shift on their own, or by validating them by just stating what you see they’re feeling without judgement or adding to the drama of the situation.  However, sometimes they need a little more help, especially if they’ve already learned some less effective ways of coping from parents who are a work in progress, like me (raises her hand).  I like my children to have control over themselves, so rather than do any surrogate tapping for them, I prefer to show them how to do it for themselves so they can have a tool for life.

In line with that, here’s another video from Brad Yates and his adept assistant to help your child deal with anger.  EFT doesn’t deny the emotion, it just gets the energy flowing where it’s gotten ’stuck’ in a person’s ’story’ or field, freeing their way up the scale.

Happy tapping to you and your family:

Brad adds this note:

*Once again, thanks to Vickie for her post on the Emotional Guidance Scale here.

S.O.U.L. e-Awakenings

I get daily emails from a very vibrant speaker called Jennifer Hough. She calls them daily S.O.U.L. (School of Unlimited Life) e-Awakenings and her intent is help you stay connected and share tools that teach you how to deliberately create abundance, joy and happiness in your life.

Today’s one resonated for me so I thought I’d share it here with you …

“Sometimes we get irritated when others (the media, your parents, politicians) come from a limited and controlling place. You have 2 choices: stay irritated or take leadership for another possibility.” J.Hough

Hey you.  We were in a media training course…..and today we had to look at our beliefs about media. Much of what we all shared was about media being sensationalizing, negative and filled with disturbing news. Kind of like some relationships where we feel disappointed that people are operating from fear and control. It’s not your job to change the way people think….or the way that media or politicians do their jobs. However, you do have an opportunity to lead….and leave the door open for another possibility for change and healing. Can you feel that it’s possible?

SOUL Whispers

Media is not an entity….people are the media. Politicians are not an entity, people are politicians. Well, if you are a person…and they are people…..then we can each individually, energetically or physically assist the paradigm to change. You have the capacity to lead…….with very little effort. Simply by knowing something else is possible, you already have caused a shift.

Let Go of the Oars

Who and what can you give up being righteous about………to leave the door open for another possibility. Hey, it beats the alternative!

You can sign up to Jennifer’s emails here.

photo by anne.oeldorfhirsch

Just Five More Minutes

By: Author Unknown

While at the park one day, a woman sat down next to a man on a bench near a playground. “That’s my son over there,” she said, pointing to a little boy in a red sweater who was gliding down the slide.

“He’s a fine looking boy” the man said. “That’s my daughter on the bike in the white dress.”

Then, looking at his watch, he called to his daughter.  “What do you say we go, Melissa?”

Melissa pleaded, “Just five more minutes, Dad. Please? Just five more minutes.”

The man nodded, and Melissa continued to ride her bike to herheart’s content. Minutes passed and the father stood and called again to his daughter, “Time to go now”.  Again Melissa pleaded, “Five more minutes, Dad. Just five more minutes”.

The man smiled and said, “Okay”.

“My, you certainly are a patient father,” the woman responded.

The man smiled and then said, “Her older brother Tommy was killed by a drunk driver last year while he was riding his bike near here. I never spent much time with Tommy, and now I’d give anything for just five more minutes with him. I’ve vowed not to make the same mistake with Melissa. She thinks she has five more minutes to ride her bike. The truth is, I get five more minutes to watch her play”.

Life is all about making priorities.

What are your priorities?

Give someone you love five more minutes of your time today!