The Law of Attraction is something you probably know a bit about by now and as you can tell, something that is really ringing my bell at the moment and cropping up in conversations in all parts of my life. You’ve probably already heard that whether you believe in it or not, that it’s always working, which is why I think it’s so much better to work with it, intentionally, rather than just letting life happen, sometimes bringing great things with it and sometimes not.

Sometimes, all that you need, is a slight shift in perspective for what you’re looking at to make a whole load more sense. When I need that kind of shift I usually turn to books or audios of some of inspirational mentors that have crossed my path in recent years. I can see that they have already walked this road and are a bit further along the route than me, so I enjoy their perspective and know that, just as I help others out who’re walking the path I’ve already passed, my mentors help me miss some of the potholes and suggest less steep bits of the road to make my journey easier.

One of the mentors I spoke of before was Bob Proctor. I first encountered him on The Secret, but over the years, I have really been drawn to his way of explaining things and later even found that some of my other favourite writers or speakers were his students too. He has a few programs out, but one of my favourites is the Secret Science of Getting Rich.

Even as I write that, I wonder if the word “rich” has triggered a response for you like it did for me originally? It’s based on a book by Wallace D Wattles and he writes:

WHATEVER may be said in praise of poverty, the fact remains that it is not possible to live a really complete or successful life unless one is rich. No man can rise to his greatest possible height in talent or soul development unless he has plenty of money; for to unfold the soul and to develop talent he must have
many things to use, and he cannot have these things unless he has money to buy them with.

A man develops in mind, soul, and body by making use of things, and society is so organized that man must have money in order to become the possessor of things; therefore, the basis of all advancement for man must be the science of getting rich.

I came across a similar quote from Abraham-Hicks this week:

You are right when you think, Money Isn’t Everything. You certainly do not need money to have joy in your experience. But in your society – where so much of what you live is tied to money in some way – most of you associate money with freedom and since freedom is a basic tenet of your being, coming into alignment with money will help you establish… a balanced footing that’ll be of value to you in all other aspects of your experience.

And these two came hot on the heels of a discussion I’ve been having with some friends about wealth and so have had me thinking a lot about it. It seems to me that when I have had little money and have been worrying whether or not I could pay the bills or buy groceries, that my world was a very small place where I didn’t feel expanded, when I was a more stressed parent and a less fun partner and not the best contribution to the world that I could be. And when I have had an abundance of money available to me that the main difference was a sense of freedom. Now I know that having money and freedom do not necessarily go hand in hand, but I do know that having a free flowing abundance of money in a world that operates on a financial basis gives you the choice.

One of the most important factors for me was also my flow into an unschooling lifestyle. It’s so important to me when I’m unschooling to be able to provide a learning rich environment and to be able to go out and see the world that we’re living in, not only learn about it from books or TV and I wanted to have the freedom to choose to follow a passion and choose what we want to experience because it interests us not only by what we can ‘afford’. Of course we can be creative and resourceful with what we have, however much that is at any given time, and we are, (there’s a great post on that from Unschooling We Stand here) but I also include in my dream vision of our life trips to loads of other places in the world, hands on experiences and having the unlimited resources of materials, classes and more for what we each want to learn and enjoy. Also, for us, it’s important to be able to have both parents involved so that our children see different ways of doing things as well as experience both of us following our own passions and interests so that our children can follow our example. Not least of which is enjoying our children’s company, which seemed so unfair when only one parent could enjoy their best hours and their dad could only see them in the evenings and on weekends.

Over the years, I have found many programs running in my inner world and self talk about wealth, about an either/or type mindset (like either spiritual or rich, work hard or have fun, be the breadwinner or be with your children), judgements of wealthy people, “rules” about ‘honest’ work for ‘honest’ pay and loads of others that I have dismantled and am still doing so and I am truly greatful for some of the resources I have used along the way to give me a perspective from another angle than where I’m standing. Some have shifted me just a little, and when I’ve come back to them again, I’ve been ready for bigger shifts, while some have simply blown me out of the water and a small detail has given me a huge breakthrough.

One of Bob Proctor’s students, Brian Wong has just released a special report and video called the Seasonal Wealth Report which you can access here: Seasonal Wealth Report. It refers to the Law of Timing and is a bit sales-y overall, but it may just have a nugget that gives you a different perspective that could help you today if you’re feeling stuck.

I’ve also added a video by Bob Proctor in the side bar, but feel free to post any questions or comments you have about the program, or wealth, or unjobbing or whatever else stirs you about this. It’s something that’s got me fired up and I love talking about things like that while I can feel the energy flowing in that direction.

Anger is such a great emotion that has such
a huge taboo over it. “Nice” people don’t get angry:  that’s the message I grew up with.  Instead of developing healthy ways of feeling and expressing anger, I was left hanging, feeling shame for feeling it and no reasonable way to deal with it. When I eventually came across Louise Hay’s work on how specific diseases can be linked to the suppression of specific emotions, it made sense to me and gave me the motivation to acknowledge and work with my achilles heel, which was anger, but it took many, many years and a lot of healing to clear the backlog and learn to work with it as an ally in the present moment.

I love anger.  It’s a clear signal that something you are experiencing in the present is not in alignment with who you are and what you are wanting to create in your life.  It is a force, a huge rush of energy that you can use to make change, take action, improve yourself, but the key is to keep that emotional energy IN MOTION.

Abraham talk about the Emotional Guidance Scale* and how hard it is to move instantly from a low state to a high state and especially, to maintain a higher state if you haven’t moved steadily through at least some of the stages of emotion in between – the difference in vibration is just too great.  It’s why you can feel on a such a rollercoaster of highs and lows when you start working with self development and spiritual ideas and why many people end up feeling inadequate or guilty that they haven’t maintained the peak experiences they felt when they were in a workshop or with someone who’s inspiring and uplifting to be with.

That steady progression needn’t take more than a few minutes but it can even take months or years depending on where you are in your personal journey and where you tend to steady out emotionally on a day-to-day basis (in the health field they call that your set point but you shift it with practise).  The fact is that many of us start off pretty low and may have gotten used to feeling depressed or powerless or insecure and so we need to feel angry because anger feels better than feeling powerless or depressed or scared.  The problem is that anger is not ‘allowed’.  People around you may prefer you to be in one of the lower states than moving into anger because anger is a BIG emotion and, especially if you haven’t had enough practise at owning it rather than directing at other people, it can be very uncomfortable to be around.

How often do you see parents pacifying their angry children, trying to get them to ‘quiet down’ or people telling an angry person to calm down or pull it together?  If every time you reach anger, you’re sent back down to shame or powerlessness, it can be hard to feel the relief and freedom that lies just the other side of it in blame, or doubt or boredom, let alone hitting hopefulness, optimism or joy as your regular inner feeling.  Of course it’s useful to know how to ‘be angry’ without directing anger ‘at’ another person, but I should think that’s a whole other post for another day.

I’ve noticed that, luckily, kids move through their Emotional Guidance Scale much more easily than us adults who’ve had the process hampered a little.  It can be really easy to help them to keep the energy in motion by simply allowing them to express themselves freely until they shift on their own, or by validating them by just stating what you see they’re feeling without judgement or adding to the drama of the situation.  However, sometimes they need a little more help, especially if they’ve already learned some less effective ways of coping from parents who are a work in progress, like me (raises her hand).  I like my children to have control over themselves, so rather than do any surrogate tapping for them, I prefer to show them how to do it for themselves so they can have a tool for life.

In line with that, here’s another video from Brad Yates and his adept assistant to help your child deal with anger.  EFT doesn’t deny the emotion, it just gets the energy flowing where it’s gotten ’stuck’ in a person’s ’story’ or field, freeing their way up the scale.

Happy tapping to you and your family:

Brad adds this note:

*Once again, thanks to Vickie for her post on the Emotional Guidance Scale here.

S.O.U.L. e-Awakenings

I get daily emails from a very vibrant speaker called Jennifer Hough. She calls them daily S.O.U.L. (School of Unlimited Life) e-Awakenings and her intent is help you stay connected and share tools that teach you how to deliberately create abundance, joy and happiness in your life.

Today’s one resonated for me so I thought I’d share it here with you …

“Sometimes we get irritated when others (the media, your parents, politicians) come from a limited and controlling place. You have 2 choices: stay irritated or take leadership for another possibility.” J.Hough

Hey you.  We were in a media training course…..and today we had to look at our beliefs about media. Much of what we all shared was about media being sensationalizing, negative and filled with disturbing news. Kind of like some relationships where we feel disappointed that people are operating from fear and control. It’s not your job to change the way people think….or the way that media or politicians do their jobs. However, you do have an opportunity to lead….and leave the door open for another possibility for change and healing. Can you feel that it’s possible?

SOUL Whispers

Media is not an entity….people are the media. Politicians are not an entity, people are politicians. Well, if you are a person…and they are people…..then we can each individually, energetically or physically assist the paradigm to change. You have the capacity to lead…….with very little effort. Simply by knowing something else is possible, you already have caused a shift.

Let Go of the Oars

Who and what can you give up being righteous about………to leave the door open for another possibility. Hey, it beats the alternative!

You can sign up to Jennifer’s emails here.

Wow!

My kids love this book.  I love this book.  Does anyone not love “Where The Wild Things Are” by Maurice Sendak? And now we can look forward to the movie inspired by the book by Spike Jonze.

Being True To Yourself

As Forest Whitaker says of the movie’s main theme in this interview:  It’s about finding your own place in the world.  Max “wants to find comfort but still wants to be himself.  It’s about wanting to be true to himself.  That’s the universal principle”.  I know it’s what I strive for in myself and my dynamic with my family and in my life as an unschooler and an Abraham-Hicks student or someone trying to live a passion led life.

We’ll definitely be seeing this movie and I’ll report back with our review.

Movie Notes

Released in the US on 13 October and coming to the UK on 11 December 2009.
Other release dates can be found here.
Rated PG, you can read a full parental guide here.

You can visit the official movie site here where this Behind The Scenes featurette can be seen along with other lovely goodies:

I wanted to share this info about a 21 day virtual event I just found out about that started last night where top business and self-development speakers share what they did to create massive (and measurable wealth), even in the current economy.

Their intention is to create “Wealth through Oneness”

And in line with that, the best part about this event …

Is 100% free.

The “New Wealth Experience”
-A Global Event for a New Humanity-

… and Global Kindness Contest

Here’s the blurb from their site:

It’s an amazing immersion experience that includes over 21 world thought leaders who will share their masterful teachings to help you create ‘the new wealth’ in your life.

Are you INTERESTED?

It started last night, Nov. 2nd … and its F.R.E.E to attend! You can sign up any time throughout, but there’s no point in waiting and missing any of the speakers (just dial in or listen online)

The founders (Darius Barazandeh and Jeneth Blackert) are ASKING the greatest minds to reveal ONE PRACTICE that changed their life…and so much more!

The event features – T.Harv Eker, Mark Victor Hansen, John Assaraf, Joe Vitale, Marci Shimoff, Janet & Chris Attwood, Lisa Nichols, Mariel Hemingway (yes, the actress), John DeMartini, Cynthia Kersey, Charle Gay (founder of HUB), Dr. Robert Anthony, Guy Finley, Darius Barazandeh, Jeneth Blackert, Vishen Lakiani, Ariane de Bonvoisen (seen on Oprah), Kristin & David Morelli, Dr David Simon (The Chopra Center), Randy Spelling (the son of T.V. producer Aaron Spelling) and
more!

Now you can save yourself a free spot in this teleconference series here:

http://bit.ly/NewWealthExperience
(when you sign up, you’ll receive free audio gifts valued at $97 to get you started)

Still curious to know more?

Here’s a glimpse of who you’ll learn from as they prepare to deliver 100’s of simple and reproducible ways you can achieve New Wealth…

* T.Harv Eker – He wants to talk to YOU and share the exact steps needed to change yourself 1st and world will follow!

* Mark Victor Hansen – Author of Chicken Soup for the Soul, who’s principles have shifted 1000’s life forever (and what new changes he’s creating in the new economy!)

* John Assaraf – How YOU too can “re-wire” your mind everyday to become an instant success, even when others say “it’s” impossible.

* Joe Vitale – How YOU can learn from Joe’s mistakes and struggles and a new world after just 30 minutes where opportunity for massive growth abounds.

* Marci Shimoff – How YOU can instantly raise your level of happiness (a component to wealth) even when things look bleak, meager, or just down right hopeless.

* Lisa Nichols – How YOU can reverse any circumstance to achieve your dreams no matter what!

*and much more!

The experts speaking for the New Wealth Experience have navigated the HUGE risks that normally destroy the lives and careers of people who seek new financial wealth and personal freedom.

You don’t have to make the same mistakes, fast track your path to your dreams, and when TV news leads you to believe all hope is lost…

New Wealth Experience has found the people, stories, actions to show you how to thrive on your terms!

http://bit.ly/NewWealthExperience

I love these kinds of teleseminars and I always get great value from them.

I hope you will too.  Please come back and share your experiences in the comments section.